Good day to all.
I meant to make a love story in here but perhaps you guys might go tired to read my stuff. Okay, I am in love… am deeply in love with my wife. We were married for 3 years now. And for 3 years including the ones we had before the marriage, I always insist her to make love with me. Sounds pathetic, yeah, but I humbly tell my story here because I am crying for help. We do not have kids yet because she had 2 already with her previous ex husband whom she had divorced 4 years before we met. I am just a human who had human desires but for almost 4 miraculous years, under such circumstances, I remain faithful to her. I am 34 years old and she is 42, I asked for some help from some therapist and they all claim perhaps she is getting old or her responsibilities gets in the way for her to have a good sex drive… etc. But I know and I feel, those aren’t the case. After all, I am certainly a good provider. I am a sweet guy, a guy who remembers anniversaries and birthdays, a guy who would go beyond his limit to make her feel happy. I don’t look bad also at all, at least physically speaking if that matters to anything. I did not force her to marry me too. I did not take my friend’s and family’s pre caution not to marry her because of her attitude because I feel that she’s the one.

They say if a girl is grouchy, it’s with the hormones but in her case, she is always grouchy with me. She never kissed me, never cuddle around, and never exert a single effort for me and she’s such a lazy thing talking to me. With all that I am saying I know it’s convincing that she doesn’t love me. She does, at least that’s what she tells me every time I confronted her. I tried to let her go because I told her that it would be better off if she’d find someone whom she’s really in love with. I talked with her parents and they agreed if that’s what is best for us. One night, I tried my moves with her, she rejected me just like you reject a fly getting into your food. She did that a thousand times since I met her and I feel so desperate, I lost my self confidence. She emasculated me and I know with my treatment with her, I don’t deserve it. But I try to deal with that because I love her. People notice it, she yells at me, she poke me sometimes. I aint perfect but in fairness, I know I am a good guy. Just yesterday night I asked her for a date (trying to be romantic) the night passed soundly though she had not even hold my hand or kiss me in the cheek or whatever… She does not even look at me. I feel the rejections right through my bone and I am very tired of it that this morning, I just tried to kiss her goodbye; she slapped me in front of the carpool. For God’s sake, she is my wife and it the eyes of God or in the Law I am not breaking anything.
God, I do not know what to do…. I ought to talk to her about what happen this morning but she just hang up on me on the phone and told me there are more important things than me making these dramas.

Please help me… I can’t even start a conversation with her.

I know of a personal story very similiar, and I think marianne's post is pretty perceptive. In the case I know of, it was something from the past. Father, I pray this can and will be worked out, that there will be joy in this relationship, that it will be harmonius in it's outcome. Meanwhile, be careful not to destroy what is there already, be kind and tenderhearted and seek help in Jesus name, amen&amen.